…I am so sorry for your loss, both of you. What wonderful memories you both have of such a dear soul, that is something grief nor time can ever take away. Memories that are now treasures that is for sure.
…Thank you for the reminder that it is the simplest of things in life, such as an already peeled orange that can bring the purest of pleasure and remind one they are truly loved.
…My heart & thoughts are with you both at this time.
I am so sorry for your loss. I sincerely hope you and your family will find support in each other. Sadness and grief need to be shared, thank you for sharing it here.
I lost my grandmother in december. Me and my family, too, coped by remembering her in her kitchen ways, her out-of-the-question triple helpings, her simple elegance, her stubbornness and her handwritten recipes. I’ll be always thankful for getting to know her and carrying on her rituals.
I’ll peel an orange for you.
How I yearned for a grandmother of my own when I was a child. I was pretty much the only one of my friends without a Granny or Grandpa and I saw how much love I was missing out on. But reading your post has made her come alive for me. I feel as though a little of her light shone on me, if only briefly. Thank you so much for that. My condolences to you and your husband.
What a lovely tribute to “Nanny”. I never thought of peeling an orange as such an expression of love for another person-but it truly is when you think about it. I will do this for someone I love today, thank you for helping me be more thoughtful.
Oh, Tim. My last grandparent passed away a few years ago, and it was just heartbreaking. Someone once said that when an old person dies, it’s like burning down a library, and I think that is true. All the stories, love, knowledge, understanding… gone (except in our memories). My heart goes out to you, Bryan, and your family. xo
Wow. What a beautiful and hearbreaking post. I’m tearing up for Bryan and most of all Doug. He is a lucky man to have had such a long companionship. I’m so sorry for their loss but appreciate your sharing this very emotional piece with your readers.
Aww, Bryan (and Tim), I’m so sorry for your loss.
I really enjoyed reading about sweet Nanny Emma and her big heartedness. It made me smile to hear that within minutes of meeting you, she already had her arm around you and was trying to feed you. I want to be that type of Nanny one day.
My thoughts & prayers are with you.
I’m so glad they made it to your wedding, and I know they are too :)
One of my first memories with my grandmother is picking oranges with her in my backyard. I must have been about four years old. She spent every winter with my family in arizona and she was like another mother to me. I lived with her and took care of her for a few months this winter and she passed away in february. surprising moments of simple memories come back to me more and more and although they are beautifully sweet there’s always the ache of the knowledge that I’ll never see her again in this life. you two have my prayers as you say goodbye to a woman who left you a legacy of love for her spouse and all her family.
Thank you so much, Tim, for the beautiful tribute to my mom. She loved you both so much. Her last Skype was with you and Bryan. She was quite excited, because she hadn’t seen you for a while. Skype is much nicer than the mere telephone. She literally reached out and touched your face with.joy. I’ll have to carry on the orange tradition. Love, Jen
oh that made my morning as i sit here with tears in my eyes and sobbing… that was such a beautiful post. you are so completely right about how sweet and selfless something like peeling an orange and separating each piece is. thank you for this. i needed to read this, this morning. xx
I think grandparents have a special place in our hearts. I´m glad Bryan got to know her nana for many years and shared some with you. Watch for the many little gifts she left behind; you´ll know what I mean when you start finding them. She will always be present in your lives. Be well.
my nanna merle was just the same with a heart that overflowed with love and a table that overflowed with food. sending you both love at this time. it does need to be said that nanna love is the best love xx
Your post is beautiful, it brought tears to my eyes and reminded me of how I feel about my own grandparents. It sounds like she was a truly amazing lady! My thoughts are with you, Bryan and his family.
Beautiful post, Tim… it brought tears to my eyes. It’s funny, my husband often leaves an orange by my breakfast plate or offers me an orange as a snack. Always peeled. A simple gesture, but so full of love. I’d like to offer a peeled orange to you, Bryan, and his family. *hugs*
What a beautiful tribute, Tim. I send hugs full of love and understanding to you and Bryan. I aspire to love as well as Nanny obviously did. I’m sorry for your physical loss of this woman, but her spirit will always be with you. Much love to you, my friend.
How amazing: I’m reading this on April 2nd and am realizing that on March 27, the date of your post (and through April 1) I had the joy of peeling and separating an orange for breakfast (plus cutting other fruits, and adding them all to yogurt and granola in a bowl)), for someone very important to me. Something I don’t always get to do. Such a simple thing, such a great joy.
Even more amazing: that you and Bryan had such a great relationship with his grandmother. Bravo to you all. My best to you all.
My grandma (called Nain, which is granny in Welsh), never peeled an orange for us, but was a huge fan of the 3 course breakfast: cereal, toast and then a fry-up, served on her best china and with a napkin too.
Hi Tim and Bryan,
This tribute to Nanny brought tears to my eyes. I hope you realize, Tim, that you don’t have to write about food to make an impact–ever. So beautiful and touching were your words.
Yes, Shreddies seem to be one of these cereals that is so Canadian. My ex-Montrealer cousin has lived in Durham, NC for forever; every time, she comes to visit, she buys boxes and boxes to carry home in a spare suitcase!
I send “Canadian hugs” to you and Bryan. As one friend told me after my mom passed away 2 years ago, “Take the time to really grieve.”
Dear Tim and Bryan, i just found this site by accident today, I am passionate about cooking, and always find a way to prepare and feed anyone (hungry). I am sorry for your loss of your dear Nanny, but know she is watching over you both. I will read and share with my daughter your blog page. Thank you. Ps : i have 3 lil grand babies, 6,4, 3 and I peel an orange for them often – even tho they are capable of doing it for themselves, to me this is LOVE. God bless you both and may you share 64 and more years together.
Dear Tim – A great friend recommended your blog and I have just been browsing through the posts. This was such a beautifully written, moving piece that I absolutely had to comment. My sincere condolences on your (and Bryan’s) loss. It is amazing how such simple acts have the greatest impact. Many of my own treasured family memories center around meals. I only hope that if I ever start my own family I am able to continue the tradition.
I’ve only just found your blog, but already this is my favourite post. It can be difficult sometimes to remember that mourning someone is as often a process of feeling happy about the fact that you had them, than sadness at the realisation that they’re gone, and this post about the peeled orange is so lovely.
My boyfriend never eats oranges because he thinks they’re too finicky, i’ll be peeling one for him next time he visits in celebration of your and Bryans nanny xx